This is what my fren shared with me last week... I am not sure what to suggest him... so I am just writing, if I can find a solution for him....
Ramesh said...
I have a gf, a family, frens...
I have a nice job...
I have a nice ph, laptop, racing car, bike...
what I don't have is... and I am just writing as I am thinking, this is not something I have prepared over the time... but this is something that has accrued in my mind, and heart over the time.
My gf: I met her three yrs ago in a coaching institute, she was nice, good looking, smart, candid, friendly... who used to share everything with me...we decided that we'll take the next step. Over the time of an year, I expressed my feelings to her and she was confused. She said yes, but I was not aware that I am on probation of 5 days... and I could be dumped in that time frame, but luckily I survived. This was my engineering's final year.
We graduated, I went back to my hometown Kota, the education capital of Rajasthan... I went there and decided to join my family business over the time, as my dad was not a 100% interested in sending me to US.
In the meanwhile, she went to the US and started her MS. She was living with 5 other gals and used to have fun. She was not sure of what she will land and what she wants to do, so just decided to take the steps that she thought are right and took some short term decision.
In the meanwhile, I carried on my efforts in business and also the steps that were required for my admission in the US. I finally got 5 accepts out of 6. I decided to go to Duke, which is an Ivey League... was happy.
Came to the US, studied there... now comes the end of my studies and also her studies. She has already told her parents about me and the life changes...
I am now supposed to do a job if I have to marry her, I decided I will find a job and then quit. She was also look for her job. After 3 months, I found one on my last day of the deadline period... well I got lucky and I found a job as BA in an IT company.
I am saying I got lucky, because this will help me in learning IT skills that I can utilize in starting an IT company so that me and she can do some work together. My parents were missing me, dad's health is going down, bhaiya also wants my support, but I over looked it, because I want to start something that me and she can work.
Now its almost an year, I am working, my parents still miss me, but the expectations are getting bigger and bigger. I am not sure where this would end, but I am feeling like there is some1 who is not willing that we go together... I am stuck..."
Ramesh is now in a dilemna and he feel his story has many roots from this level... he need to weigh these and take the decission..............
